’90s Country Singer Shares Impact of Coming Out as Gay

Country artist Chely Wright in 1999. (Photo by Sherry Rayn Barnett /Michael Ochs Archives/Getty Images)

Chely Wright, known for hits like “Single White Female” and “Shut Up and Drive,” has openly discussed how coming out as gay remains a defining moment in her life. She describes this act as her greatest source of pride, despite acknowledging it came with emotional and professional sacrifices.

Wright explained her motivation for coming out was to honestly share all facets of her identity—an individual of faith and Midwest roots, passionate about country music and legendary artists like Loretta Lynn and Connie Smith—while also being gay. She recounts her struggle with the desire for widespread acceptance, noting, “I wanted everyone to like me, which was difficult to let go of. But once I did, everything became much easier.”

Her decision to live openly was deeply influenced by her battles with depression and thoughts of suicide in 2006. Feeling she had no choice but to reveal her truth for her survival, she feared the loss of her career. “I knew at any moment my career could be over if I was discovered, so I kept my sexuality hidden, controlling how I presented myself,” she said.

Seeking inspiration from renowned queer figures like Ellen DeGeneres and Melissa Etheridge, Wright spent four years preparing to come out publicly. She initially shared her story in her 2010 memoir, “Like Me: Confessions of a Heartland Country Singer,” carefully strategizing her approach despite facing threats and hostility.

Contrary to fears of professional backlash, Wright gradually found more fulfilling opportunities in advocacy, diversity, and inclusion work. She mentions that her focus shifted from music to culture work, especially after the COVID-19 pandemic disrupted her touring career. Now, she serves as Senior Vice President of CSR and New Market Growth at ISS, a global facility management firm.

Though she has stepped away from the music scene, Wright hints at returning, sharing she continues to write and hum melodies daily. She’s currently developing a musical based on her memoir, with actress Jean Smart acquiring the rights. She also remains committed to her passion for music and plans to release more albums in the future.