Advice on Reconsidering a Cheating Partner

Amy Robach and T.J. Holmes, who previously admitted to an affair while still married to their respective spouses, unexpectedly shared candid advice about infidelity to a fan seeking guidance.

A woman reached out via a “Ask Amy and T.J.” column, asking whether she should rekindle her relationship with a boyfriend who had cheated on her with a colleague two years earlier. Although they had separated due to infidelity, she noticed him engaging with her on social media and wondered if reconciliation was viable.

Robach, 52, responded plainly: “No, you shouldn’t go back to him. You ended your relationship for a reason, and infidelity doesn’t just happen out of nowhere. It reflects on the relationship’s underlying issues.”

She expressed skepticism about the boyfriend’s claimed change, especially citing his improved circumstances—like a new job and a pet—as insufficient reasons to believe he had genuinely changed. Holmes, 47, echoed her sentiments, emphasizing that the woman should raise her standards and not settle for mere superficial improvements.

Robach acknowledged that she wouldn’t advise someone against love outright, but warned to proceed cautiously if she chose to reconnect with him, urging her to see past the surface and confront reality.

The discussion comes in light of their own past scandal, where photos from May 2022 showed them holding hands in New York City while both were still married—Robach to Andrew Shue and Holmes to Marilee Fiebig. The pair had been discreet about their affair, which became public after media leaks, and it led to their job losses and divorce proceedings.

Both reporters have consistently denied accusations of cheating, insisting that their relationship was misinterpreted as infidelity. Despite the fallout, Holmes filed for divorce in late 2022, and Fiebig later began dating Shue, with the two moving in together after bonding over their relationship issues.